What the Best Leaders Do

What the Best Leaders Do

Setting the Context

Today we're exploring Nehemiah chapter 2 and discovering what separates great leaders from the rest. This past Thursday, our church gathered for the National Day of Prayer, lifting up our nation's leaders before God. The Apostle Paul reminds us in 1 Timothy to pray for "kings and all those in authority," because the costs of leadership are very real and very high.

Georgia football coach Kirby Smart once outlined three costs of leadership that ring eternally true:

1. You will make hard decisions that negatively affect people you care about
2. You will be disliked despite your best efforts to help others
3. You will be misunderstood and won't always have the chance to defend yourself

Leadership demands a price. But the book of Nehemiah offers us a masterclass in how to lead with wisdom and faith.

Understanding Nehemiah's Story

Nehemiah was born in Babylon—a Jew in exile. One hundred forty years before our text, his people had been conquered and forced from their homes in Jerusalem. Yet God had placed a dream in Nehemiah's heart: one day, he would return to the promised land.

That journey would require traveling 900 miles by caravan—imagine walking to Denver, Colorado today. The task seemed impossible. Yet God equipped the called. This obscure Jewish man rose to prominence within a pagan government, much like Joseph in Genesis. He became cupbearer to the king—the most trusted position in the empire. He tasted the royal wine to ensure no assassin had poisoned it.

In chapter 1, Nehemiah learns devastating news: Jerusalem lies in ruins. The protective wall—25 to 40 feet high in places—has been torn down by Babylonian battering rams. Exposed to robbers and raiders, the holy city is defenseless. Nehemiah's heart breaks. He prays, "God, make me a leader. I'm willing to pay whatever cost it takes."

That's where chapter 2 begins.

Four Things Great Leaders Do

1. The Best Leaders Wait on God's Timing

"During the month of Nisan in the 20th year of King Artaxerxes, when wine was set before him, I took the wine and gave it to the king. I had never been sad in his presence. So the king said to me, 'Why do you look so sad when you aren't sick? This is nothing but sadness of heart.'" — Nehemiah 2:1-2

Notice the timing: four months have passed since Nehemiah first heard about the wall's destruction. Four long months of waiting.

This is a pattern throughout Scripture. God gives a leader a vision—a picture of a preferred future—but then often waits. God is not in a hurry the way we are. One of the fruits of the Holy Spirit is patience. As we grow in the Lord, we learn to wait on His timing rather than rushing ahead in our own strength.

Warren Wiersbe writes: *"True faith in God brings a calmness to the heart that keeps us from rushing about in trying to do in our own strength what only God can do. We must know not only how to weep and pray, but also how to wait and pray."

When Nehemiah heard the wall was in ruins, he wept and prayed—and then he waited. Sometimes that's all we can do.

I'll be honest: I hate to wait. When my family moved to Shelby County last year, I had to renew our vehicle license plates at the DMV. I brought a stack of books and settled in for a long wait. When I finally reached the window, the clerk informed me I could only renew three vehicles per visit. I have four children. I was "blessed" with another trip to the DMV—and more waiting.

God is kind to give us moments of growth, even at the DMV.

Nehemiah didn't wait four hours; he waited four months. And when the Lord puts a deep desire in your heart, your spirit feels ready to move faster than God is willing to move. The psalmist challenges us: "Wait for the Lord, be strong, take heart, and wait for the Lord" (Psalm 27:14). This ought to be posted at the DMV.

If you're in a season of waiting—if God has given others dreams but seems to have withheld yours—take heart. The Lord is teaching you what He taught Nehemiah: patience is a mark of true faith. Your blessing will come in time. Don't walk through an orchard in April and accuse the apple tree of being lazy because the cherry tree blossomed first. Each tree has its own season. So does each person.

2. The Best Leaders Make Bold Requests

"So I prayed to the God of heaven and answered the king, 'If it pleases the king, and if your servant has found favor with you, send me to Judah to the city where my ancestors are buried so that I may rebuild it.'" — Nehemiah 2:4-5

When the king asks what Nehemiah wants, notice what happens: "I prayed to the God of heaven." This is what I call a "hand grenade prayer"—just seconds to acknowledge his need for God's help before answering the king. We don't know exactly what he prayed, but in that moment, Nehemiah connects with God and then makes a bold request.

During those four months of waiting, Nehemiah wasn't idle. He was getting an education. He learned he would need letters for safe passage through the region. He discovered he needed Asaph—the keeper of the king's forest, the man who controlled all the timber. Without Asaph's help, Nehemiah couldn't rebuild a thing.

In seasons of waiting, God often calls us to prepare. Get educated. Make yourself ready. Then, when the door opens, make bold requests.

Years ago, my wife Lindy and I read a book called Praying for Your Elephants. The author tells of his youth pastor days, when he dreamed of bringing a live elephant to youth group. Most people would dismiss such a thought before it ever left their lips. But he felt compelled to ask God again and again: "Lord, send us an elephant."

Nothing happened for months. Years passed. He forgot all about it.

Then, years later, while leading a mission trip overseas, he walked into his hotel room and heard shouting from the courtyard. He opened the window—and there was a real live elephant, surrounded by his students.

That moment changed him. He realized Jesus had said, "You have not because you ask not." From that day forward, he prayed with greater boldness. He says: *"I am in the business of prayer creation. I leave the editorial and distribution responsibilities to God."

That is the spirit of Nehemiah. Great leaders are not afraid to ask bold things because they trust that God has called them to do it. You may have an elephant-sized burden right now—a broken marriage, a prodigal child, a ministry dream that feels too big. Nehemiah calls you to bring your impossible-sized requests before an all-powerful God. That is how we are taught to pray in the Bible.

3. The Best Leaders Stay Committed to the Call, No Matter the Size of the Task

"So I said to them, 'You see the trouble we are in. Jerusalem lies in ruins and its gates have been burned. Come, let's rebuild the wall of Jerusalem so we will no longer be a disgrace.' I told them how the gracious hand of my God had been on me and what the king had said to me. And they said, 'Let's start rebuilding.' And their hands were strengthened to do this good work." — Nehemiah 2:17-18

After his 900-mile journey, Nehemiah doesn't call a meeting or make a grand announcement. Instead, he waits. For three days, he remains silent. Then, under cover of night, he inspects the walls himself. He walks the rubble. He studies the gates. He traces every broken place.

What he sees is sobering. The walls aren't just damaged—they are devastated. The gates aren't weak—they are burned to the ground. After more than a century of ruin, the task is even worse than he imagined.

Yet Nehemiah is not dismayed. Why? Because he had already made up his mind. He had said yes to God. He had signed the contract. The condition of the wall wouldn't change his calling because he was committed.

This is what separates great leaders: once they feel called to do something, no matter how hard it gets, they will not turn back.

Over the years, my wife Lindy and I have noticed something in every leadership assignment we've said yes to: it's always been harder than we expected and greater than we imagined. Harder than we expected. Greater than we imagined.

It's almost as if God doesn't remove barriers until you've already said yes and you're inside the work. He wants to know if you're willing to take it on with the wall in its current state, believing that "He who began a good work in you will carry it to completion" (Philippians 1:6).

Often, walking by faith means saying yes before you know what you're saying yes to. It's obedience without full visibility.

Think of Abraham. God said, "Go to the land that I will show you"—not that I have shown you, but that I will show you. Later, Abraham was called to sacrifice his own son, climbing a mountain with Isaac, not knowing how God would provide a way out. Yet he took the steps, believing God would show him the way.

A.W. Tozer writes in The Pursuit of God: "Our Lord came not to destroy but to save. Everything is safe if we commit it to him and nothing is really safe which is not committed to God."

There's a happiness, a blessedness, that comes with releasing your life, your children, your dreams to God. Your gifts and talents are God's loans to you. "We have no more right to claim credit for special abilities than for blue eyes. For who makes you to differ from another? And what have you that you did not receive?" (1 Corinthians 4:7)

Nehemiah would not back down when the road was hard. He knew God had called him and gifted him for the task.

4. The Best Leaders Bring Other People Into the Plan

"And they said, 'Let's start rebuilding.' And their hands were strengthened to do the work." — Nehemiah 2:18

When Nehemiah expresses his confidence in God's gracious hand, the people want to join him. He transfers the burden from himself to others. Great leaders understand: if you carry the whole thing yourself, you'll be exhausted.

Teamwork makes the dream work. You see this all through Scripture and church history. There is no such thing as a self-made man or a one-man band. Behind every significant leader is a network of people God called to help them.

No great work of God is ever built on one set of shoulders.

Making It Personal: Questions You Might Ask

What If Others Are Moving Faster Than Me?

If you're competitive, you naturally glance sideways and measure your pace against others' progress. You see people advancing faster, achieving more, and questions trouble your heart: God, what's wrong with me? Why are you opening doors for them? Why aren't you listening to my desires?

Ecclesiastes 3 reminds us: "There is a season for every activity under heaven." God determines when every tree blooms, including every human flower.

Ephesians 2:10 tells us: "We are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works which he has prepared in advance for us to do." Your assignment is not random. Your timing is not accidental. God is not running your race on someone else's clock.

Often, the seasons of waiting for our dreams are when God does His most powerful shaping of our lives. Consider:

• Fyodor Dostoevsky didn't publish The Brothers Karamazov until he was nearly 60
• J.R.R. Tolkien didn't publish The Lord of the Rings until his mid-60s
• Tim Keller wrote his first book at 50, then one every year
• Colonel Sanders didn't launch KFC until his mid-60s

Sometimes the best things on earth come later than we planned. Always believe that the best God has for you is coming ahead.

What If I Step Out in Faith and Fail?

We Christians tend to celebrate the people who stepped out boldly for God and succeeded. What about those who didn't? What about Jim Elliot, who was martyred in the Amazon jungle? What about John the Baptist, who confronted corruption and preached truth—and had his head cut off?

Which was more godly? Jonathan of the Old Testament, who defeated the Philistines? Or John the Baptist, who lost his head?

Outcomes are not the truest measure of faithfulness.

Consider your own life:

• You share your faith; the person walks away uninterested. But a seed is planted, and your courage grows.
• You step into a leadership role; it doesn't go well. You make mistakes, maybe get fired. But that experience becomes the springboard into a new season.
• You start a ministry or project you believed in. It never gains traction. But the discipline, humility, and dependence on God it produced in you remain throughout your life.

Boldness does not guarantee success, but God calls us to continue trying bold things. If you're a depressed Christian later in life, ask yourself: When is the last time I tried something that would surely fail without God's help?

Outcomes are in God's hands. Make bold requests. Live the adventurous life.

What If I'm Not a "Take-Charge" Leader?

I titled this sermon "What the Best Leaders Do," but what if you don't feel called to lead in the way I'm describing?

When Jesus wanted to show His disciples what real leadership looks like, did He climb a platform and make a speech? No. He knelt down with a towel and basin and washed people's feet. Christian leadership is not seeking visibility—it's performing service.

Some are called to lead from the front. Some are called to strengthen and support from behind the scenes. Often, the person behind the leader makes or breaks a movement.

I came across a book called The Gatekeepers: How the White House Chiefs of Staff Define Every Presidency. The author, Chris Whipple, argues that the most effective U.S. presidents weren't necessarily the most charismatic. What made them effective was carefully selecting their right-hand person.

The chief of staff sees the president day in and day out. He's the one person—besides the president's spouse—who can look him in the eye and say, "This is not right. You can't go down that road. It's a mistake." The man who plays second fiddle often makes or breaks everything.

We celebrate the person on the platform. But there is no speech, no policy, no accomplishment without the people behind the person.

You might not be the preacher or the speaker. But God may have given you skills to advance His kingdom. You may not be Nehemiah; you may be Asaph—the man with the timber, the one with the resources. The question is this: Will you use your skill, craft, and gift to advance the kingdom of God or the kingdom of self?

Jesus says leadership is service. How will you use your gifts to advance God's kingdom? There are no second-class servants—only faithful ones.

The Call

As we finish, I want to ask you: What has God said to you through this message that He now wants you to obey?

The word of God never returns empty. In every sermon, usually one statement really speaks to you. What is it? What would God call you to do because this message happened? How will you apply it today?

Bow your heads and ask yourself that question. What has God said to you that He now wants you to obey? Do some business with God right now.

If you've never made the most important decision of your life—if you've never believed that what Jesus did on the cross was enough to cancel your sins and make you right with God—I invite you to call out to Him now. Lord Jesus, I invite you to take over my life. Show me what you've called me to do. Today I repent of my sins. I ask for your forgiveness. Show me the future.

I pray that this church would raise up some of the greatest Christian leaders in this generation of America. I pray for bold faith, obedient hearts, and a willingness to carry the burdens God has placed on us. All this I pray in Jesus' name. Amen.